I am writing this a few months before me and my husband celebrate our fifth year as husband and wife. As a Christian, I base most of what I do according to what is written in the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16-17), as is it said that it will guide us in everything that we do.
I have only been born again a few years back and I must say that most of what I know about my functions as a wife and a mother has been influenced by what the society tells us. In this day and age, women are empowered and liberated as opposed to women in the past where women are the minority. But as a child of God, we have to know what God tells us about the function of a woman in the household.
It is important as a Christian, to delve deep in to God's word. Now as we look into the Bible, we can understand that a wives' role is to:
I have only been born again a few years back and I must say that most of what I know about my functions as a wife and a mother has been influenced by what the society tells us. In this day and age, women are empowered and liberated as opposed to women in the past where women are the minority. But as a child of God, we have to know what God tells us about the function of a woman in the household.
It is important as a Christian, to delve deep in to God's word. Now as we look into the Bible, we can understand that a wives' role is to:
A. Submit to her husband
(Genesis 3:16, 1 Timothy 2:11-15, Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-6)
The Bible tells us that the role of a woman as a wife is to submit to their husbands. It doesn't mean that the woman is no longer entitled to their own opinion and their own choices. But in one ship there need to be only one captain who will give the last call, imagine if there are two captains in a ship? Who will be held responsible? They will be pointing fingers as to who is responsible when troubles arise. And as it is in the family, the father as the head of the household is the captain of the ship.
For women to submit to their husbands is not an easy task. Especially in our society today where both men and women are treated equally. Submitting does not really mean to be a slave or to be someone of lesser value. God treats both men and women equally but they are given different tasks. This was clearly stated when Adam and Eve committed the first sin and they were cursed(Genesis 3:12-20). That the man was to toil the ground and the woman was to bear a child and let the man rule over her.
What then do we need to submit to our husbands? A lot of women have different myths regarding this: that she will lose her freedom, that she will no longer be allowed to think, that she will become a slave of her husband. But this is not what God meant. Because it is the woman that was deceived that is why God granted the man the authority over the woman. He also created women to be emotional and men to be more rational beings. Therefore, men are more able to lead in decision making without emotional influence.
A lot of marriages today are falling apart because women always have the desire to control their husbands or the do not want to be controlled. They always use the Bible verse that "husbands should love their wives" in return for them to be able to submit. But we are all accountable for our own actions, and we are also commanded to submit even if they do not obey the Word (1 Peter 3:1-2) so that they may be won through our respectfulness and conduct. Being independent while still single makes a woman proud and unable to submit to their husbands. Wives should not wait to be loved first, they should perform their wife duties, whether or not their husband does their part.
B. Manage her household
(Proverbs 31:10-30, Proverbs 14:1, 1 Timothy 5:14, Titus 2:4-5)
In today's modern world, a lot of women will disagree with the Scriptures especially in the sense of working at home or staying at home. There is no doubt that the man is the head of the household and that the woman should submit to her husband because the Bible tells us so. But in reality not all men are man enough to stand up and become the head of the family. The husband should be the protector, the provider and the leader. If the man of the house does not assume responsibility, that is when the woman steps in and assumes responsibility. Which is contrary to what the Bible teaches us.
However, there are times when the man is able to provide, able to protect and able to lead but the woman still wants to earn a living. This is where we should assess the motives of the woman. Are her motives selfish? Or is she doing it out of love? If the woman is working even if the man is able to provide only because she wants to be able to buy the things she wants but does not need (1 Tim. 6:8) then her motives are selfish. If the woman is working because she want to help her family, like her parents and her siblings or because she sees that his husband need her to help him in their finances, then her motives are good (Proverbs 21:2).
It was clearly stated that a woman should watch over the affairs of the household, never was it mentioned in the Bible that the husband should do such things. It is also stated that as parents it is our duty to train our children(Proverbs 22:6). The most critical period in rearing a child is from newborn to 6 years of age where they learn a lot from their environment. As mothers who work in the household, it is our duty to instill good values to our children since mothers are the ones in contact with children most of the day.
Must Read Articles:
What does the Bible say about Christian mothers?
http://www.gotquestions.org/mothers-Christian.html
Being a good mother
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Family/Parents%20Corner/being_a_good_mother.htm
What the Bible says About Mothers
http://www.annieshomepage.com/biblemothersday.html
What is the biblical description of a good mother or wife?
http://www.lovesanswer.com/component/option,com_advice/task,view/id,273/Itemid,46/
What Does the Bible Say About the Man Being the Breadwinner?
http://www.christianpost.com/news/what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-man-being-the-breadwinner-114066/
Role of the Husband in the Bible
http://www.bible.ca/marriage/husbands.htm
The Biblical Order of Men and Women in the Family and the Church
http://bible-truth.org/Biblicalordermenwomen.html
Role of the Husband in the Bible
http://www.allaboutgod.com/role-of-husband-in-the-bible.htm
What Does it Mean to Submit to Your Husbands
http://www.openbible.info/topics/submitting_to_your_husband
Submission of Christian wives to their husbands
http://www.reason4living.com/articles/totw0041.htm
(Genesis 3:16, 1 Timothy 2:11-15, Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-6)
The Bible tells us that the role of a woman as a wife is to submit to their husbands. It doesn't mean that the woman is no longer entitled to their own opinion and their own choices. But in one ship there need to be only one captain who will give the last call, imagine if there are two captains in a ship? Who will be held responsible? They will be pointing fingers as to who is responsible when troubles arise. And as it is in the family, the father as the head of the household is the captain of the ship.
For women to submit to their husbands is not an easy task. Especially in our society today where both men and women are treated equally. Submitting does not really mean to be a slave or to be someone of lesser value. God treats both men and women equally but they are given different tasks. This was clearly stated when Adam and Eve committed the first sin and they were cursed(Genesis 3:12-20). That the man was to toil the ground and the woman was to bear a child and let the man rule over her.
What then do we need to submit to our husbands? A lot of women have different myths regarding this: that she will lose her freedom, that she will no longer be allowed to think, that she will become a slave of her husband. But this is not what God meant. Because it is the woman that was deceived that is why God granted the man the authority over the woman. He also created women to be emotional and men to be more rational beings. Therefore, men are more able to lead in decision making without emotional influence.
A lot of marriages today are falling apart because women always have the desire to control their husbands or the do not want to be controlled. They always use the Bible verse that "husbands should love their wives" in return for them to be able to submit. But we are all accountable for our own actions, and we are also commanded to submit even if they do not obey the Word (1 Peter 3:1-2) so that they may be won through our respectfulness and conduct. Being independent while still single makes a woman proud and unable to submit to their husbands. Wives should not wait to be loved first, they should perform their wife duties, whether or not their husband does their part.
B. Manage her household
(Proverbs 31:10-30, Proverbs 14:1, 1 Timothy 5:14, Titus 2:4-5)
In today's modern world, a lot of women will disagree with the Scriptures especially in the sense of working at home or staying at home. There is no doubt that the man is the head of the household and that the woman should submit to her husband because the Bible tells us so. But in reality not all men are man enough to stand up and become the head of the family. The husband should be the protector, the provider and the leader. If the man of the house does not assume responsibility, that is when the woman steps in and assumes responsibility. Which is contrary to what the Bible teaches us.
However, there are times when the man is able to provide, able to protect and able to lead but the woman still wants to earn a living. This is where we should assess the motives of the woman. Are her motives selfish? Or is she doing it out of love? If the woman is working even if the man is able to provide only because she wants to be able to buy the things she wants but does not need (1 Tim. 6:8) then her motives are selfish. If the woman is working because she want to help her family, like her parents and her siblings or because she sees that his husband need her to help him in their finances, then her motives are good (Proverbs 21:2).
It was clearly stated that a woman should watch over the affairs of the household, never was it mentioned in the Bible that the husband should do such things. It is also stated that as parents it is our duty to train our children(Proverbs 22:6). The most critical period in rearing a child is from newborn to 6 years of age where they learn a lot from their environment. As mothers who work in the household, it is our duty to instill good values to our children since mothers are the ones in contact with children most of the day.
Must Read Articles:
What does the Bible say about Christian mothers?
http://www.gotquestions.org/mothers-Christian.html
Being a good mother
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Family/Parents%20Corner/being_a_good_mother.htm
What the Bible says About Mothers
http://www.annieshomepage.com/biblemothersday.html
What is the biblical description of a good mother or wife?
http://www.lovesanswer.com/component/option,com_advice/task,view/id,273/Itemid,46/
What Does the Bible Say About the Man Being the Breadwinner?
http://www.christianpost.com/news/what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-man-being-the-breadwinner-114066/
Role of the Husband in the Bible
http://www.bible.ca/marriage/husbands.htm
The Biblical Order of Men and Women in the Family and the Church
http://bible-truth.org/Biblicalordermenwomen.html
Role of the Husband in the Bible
http://www.allaboutgod.com/role-of-husband-in-the-bible.htm
What Does it Mean to Submit to Your Husbands
http://www.openbible.info/topics/submitting_to_your_husband
Submission of Christian wives to their husbands
http://www.reason4living.com/articles/totw0041.htm
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